facebook is really what everyone is into now. we forget about friendster, blog totally.

sometimes i wonder why we even post everything on fb. beats me. i do that too. but always be careful and think twice about what you're going to post as it is such a powerful tool and the response and consequences may be too great for you to handle.

I have a colleague who posted something against me but well, she removed the post probably someone reminded her of consequences, or, better still, she was still clear-headed. i couldn't get hold of the evidence and she got away with it. but things are better now. no more such things i hope.

you also will not want to post something negative of someone close to you just because the person is not a facebook user. i really see no point in writing something so demeaning to that person, causing friends in fb to have a bad impression of him/her. if your friends do not know the person well, they will trust your judgement and think negatively of that person. that is the effect you have created. then one day, when you feel happy, you decide to declare your love for this person and forget the fact that you have ruined his reputation before. friends may appear to be neutral but i suppose they feel kind of weird reading your totally conflicting posts. do not hurt the person you love. internet is for all to view and i certainly believe some things are still best to be kept private. we do not want to know your quarrels with your love (though it's real good gossip stuff!) we can survive without knowing all these info you know? :)

it's just contradicting and it makes people think what kind of person you are if you can even treat your closest one like this.

all of us post unhappy posts when we are upset, disappointed etc. but the ball is in your hands, to decide if you want to disclose more details or even write all the nasty remarks about the person that you can never take back...

i do not disclose my arguments, nor my unhappiness in marriage to friends or via the powerful internet tools. unless it's very grave matters, i will not tell my mother or my close friends. i think in a way, it's to protect the relationship and the person involved. it's definitely not to uphold the 'happy marriage' reputation as some people may view it as. my colleague holds the exact same view and 'policy' as me. she finds no need to pour her heart out to her close friends when she has a fight with her husband but her friends seem to have the habit to do that. when they find that she actually does have problems with her husband at times (who doesn't?!?! i don't believe in PERFECT marriages), they decided to distant themselves from her and said she's not a real friend and she's trying to make herself look good before them, people who have problems. ok, i mean, WHAT THE HELL???

so what if you let people know all your problems? you want all that support when you are feeling well. we understand. but, try to hold yourself together. sometimes, it may be good to settle the issue between yourselves instead of blasting it to your friends first. and it's true enough, sometimes, the person really doesn't know what you want.

one sentence to sum it all, grow up and be mature. after all, it's a marriage (of few years) you are talking about. and the person you claim to love most. since you've chosen him, accept all his weaknesses (and his family???!), or let him know what you expect and just hope he will change.

okay. that is all about my viewpoint. this is not a blog that is popular so i shouldn't have people writing comments to attack me. if you ever read this and find i'm targeting at you, maybe you've done something like this and will want to reconsider your actions..?

now, instead of posting this on fb, i think it's better to post here. i wanna shout it out loud. :P

natalie is going to be a sister next april :DDD

please let me be less hungry, grant me less weight gain! and of course, a healthy baby, though it is only 4cm big

goodbye~ till the next time i am free!

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